Home Alone: A Year on My Own


Technically speaking it’s been a year and two months since I moved out of my parent’s house and in with The Captain, B, and a spinning door of roommates. A lot of things were hard to deal with at first, but now they seem as easy as breathing. I’ve discovered a lot about myself in this time and it’s pretty awesome to think about how far I’ve come. I mean, I know that I still have it easy compared to a lot of twenty-somethings who are living on their own, but baby steps count in my opinion.

Things I’ve Learned About Myself:

  1. I like cooking. I’ll be honest when I say that I barely did any cooking when I lived with at home. Maybe ‘vegetarian’ spaghetti every once and a while, occasionally baked goods, but my mom pretty much did all the cooking. So I knew when I moved out that I’d have to get cooking in order to survive. The Captain and I live on a one-income, college-sized budget and can’t afford to eat out every night. Someone had to cook. And I love it for the most part. Sure there are some nights when I’m tired and just want to heat up leftovers or get fast food, but then there are nights like tonight where I fix myself baked tilapia, brown rice, and sautéed onions and drink wine and feel like a boss.
  2. Dishes and Laundry make the world go round. Fun fact: if you don’t do dishes or laundry then don’t be surprised when you run out of clothes and utensils. Now I mostly did my laundry before I moved out, but I didn’t always do the folding and there were piles of clothes on the floor/chair/desk and it took forever. It was my primary chore to put the dishes away and I was okay at following through there. But since moving out I’ve become a machine at these once-hated chores. I try to do laundry at least once a week and am forced to put it away because there’s little room to spare in our room and a single laundry basket. I do dishes because I know if I don’t there’s little chance someone else will and it’s not fun to reach for a fork and see everything you need compiling gross in the sink. So I’ve developed a routine of getting up, getting my coffee started, and doing dishes in the morning before breakfast and making sure they’re ready to run before bed. It gives me some form of peace of mind.
  3. I effing love grocery shopping. I don’t know where this came from because my mom hates it, but I look forward to picking up groceries every other week. There’s a certain kind of zen in creating a grocery list and following through on it, bringing them all home, and putting them away in my highly organized kitchen. Yesterday I had a lovely trip to Trader Joe’s and spent only $45 getting all the produce my little heart desired. I think this ties into my newfound love of cooking since I then use these ingredients to make yummy things. Again, I’m the primary person who does the grocery shopping and funny things happen when there isn’t communication. For example, I noticed we ran out of eggs, went to the store, picked up our usual five dozen, and came home. Then another roommate brought back a dozen and later B brought in another five dozen. We were heavy on the eggs for a couple of weeks there. It was not egg-celent.
  4. I blame the DVR for my new addiction to reality cooking/home shows. Before I moved out I had On Demand power, but if I missed a new episode then I had to wait for a marathon to catch up or I just forgot about it and didn’t care too much. Now I have access to a DVR and use it to full advantage. I’m up to date on all kinds of shows (a full list can be found at the bottom of this article), but I’ve been able to get into the types of shows that I only appreciated from a distance before. For example I have a timer set for Cutthroat Kitchen, Chopped, Flip or Flop, and Tiny House Hunters. I love being able to get inspiration for cooking and decorating and have time to watch them on my own time.
  5. I really miss having a table/desk. This has honestly been one of the hardest parts of moving out. I had a beautiful white desk from World Market that I sadly neglected, but would kill for now. My new house does not have a desk or a dining table (we got rid of it to make room for another couch) and the stools by the counter are too small for my ass (yet another reason to lose weight). This meant that to study hard this semester I actually had to do so in the library on campus. Which annoys me a little. I am looking forward to the immediate day that I have room for a desk because I will never neglect it again.

I’m sure that there other things I’ve discovered or learned in this year after moving out, but those are the first that come to mind. I wasn’t sure what it was going to be like living with The Captain and roommates, but so far I like it more than I don’t. So here’s to another year in the house and all the meals, chores, grocery shopping, DVR shows, and difficult-to-work-on-surfaces that come with it.

A Comprehensive List of the Shows I’m Up to Date on Thanks to the Magical DVR:

  1. Game of Thrones
  2. American Horror Story
  3. The Big Bang Theory
  4. Gravity Falls
  5. Drunk History
  6. The Walking Dead
  7. Gotham
  8. Grandfathered
  9. Cutthroat Kitchen
  10. Flip or Flop
  11. Once Upon a Time
  12. The Flash
  13. Marvel’s Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D
  14. Arrow
  15. Supergirl
  16. Scream
  17. Scream Queens